What is "Sexy"?

Entry for May 13, 2006

Sexy. Such a vague word and it's meaning varies widely depending on the one defining it. It is a look? A way about someone? A body style? It took many years for me to consider myself "sexy" but what an amazing difference it is to wake every day being able to not just say that I am sexy but to feel sexy.
I came across a very great "thought" about sexiness when reading Belle De Jour. The author writes, "Sexiness is the result of being pulled together and comfortable in your skin. Holding your stomach in when your clothes are off is not fuckable. Slapping your ample behind and inviting him to ride the wobble is."
Acceptance is the key to sexiness, to me. If you can accept who you are, be comfortable with all that you stand for and confident in the woman you have become....that makes you sexy! It's not the models on the front of Cosmopolitan. Nor the high maintenance women seen on Cover Girl commercials. Sure they can be arousing and very pleasing to the eye but I wouldn't call them sexy. They're untouchable and there is nothing sexy about that!
Sexy is 2 strangers standing naked before one another within seconds of meeting, passionately kissing and exploring eachother with their hands. Intense, hot and wild they bring eachother to climax simultaneously. A little bit of chemistry, a true appreciation for the opposite sex and a sense of adventure....that's sexy!
I have met some beautiful women whose attitude or personality turns me off. So I don't believe looks alone can make you sexy. Society has unfortunately allowed girls as young as 8 to feel that to be sexy, attractive, acceptable you must look like a model. That is the life they want to live. They see these women with handsome men on beautiful beaches and they believe that is what matters in life...if you have looks you have everything.
Looks will only take you so far in life. They may help you get that grade in college you were looking for, or that job you applied for but don't really have the qualifications for and even get you that guy that other girls wouldn't have a chance at. But eventually....you get out of college and realize the president of the company you dream to work for is a hard ass confident sexy woman, and the job that you got beacause of your looks doesn't hold up because even though the guy in HR thought you were real hot you find yourself doing business with men that expect you to know what you are doing (and I don't mean under the sheets). Oh...and that real hot guy you got? I truly hope he's gay just to prove my point!!!