Society and Sex

Entry for June 10, 2006

The “outsider’s” view on the adult entertainment industry is quite negative, but just why is that? Dirty, disgusting, rank, filthy, unlawful and just plain sick. We’ve all heard it, we all know what they think. We all go to great lengths to protect our identity from them. Our actions discreet and our lies abundant. But why do we feel that need to hide what we do when, if attacked publicly we are so quick to defend?

We laugh at the politicians that try to condemn us. We ridicule the ones that are so closed minded they themselves cannot see the beauty in what we do. But yet we do not share our interests with our neighbors, nor our closest friends. Now I am not referring to those that are married and have much to lose by their participation, but just speaking in general terms. Why is society as a whole unable to accept the concept of sharing sex and what a beautiful thing that is to share?

I will not pretend to be one of a particular faith, nor do I intend to delve into the depths of a religious argument by any means but most if not all faiths are against this type of activity. It had been my understanding that even in the earliest days, group sex or swapping of your mates was considered a “neighborly” social event. Sex was to be admired, appreciated perhaps even so well liked it was worshipped. Just where did things go wrong?

I find it hard to believe that we were created so beautiful and sensual to not enjoy our bodies, to not be expected to touch each other, ravish one another and be intertwined in human flesh. We are the only animal in the kingdom that seeks sexual involvement for pure gratification. Don’t you think it was meant to be that way? We were wired that way so why shouldn’t it be? So why do most feel that sex is to be only shared between a man and his wife? How has it become that sex is viewed as something dirty when, in my opinion there could be nothing more pure!

Some say that woman’s rights and the whole movement of women and their equality in this world has thus made a stand for women in the sex trade. That we are abused, demoralized and that the men using our services are contributing to the degradation of women. Unfortunately, even in this day and age there are women forced to work the streets, forced to live a life of prostitution. I am not here to appear ignorant that these things do not go on but I can only speak of my experiences in this business. These men are your doctors, your bosses and your neighbors. They run companies like Microsoft and GM, they are your relatives and your husbands. They are wonderful people looking for wonderful experiences. The women, they are professionals too. They are bosses, they are soccer moms, PTA members. They have other jobs, they may not. They have morals, intelligence and it just so happens……..they really like sex!

In my time in this business I likely will not see the day that I will be comfortable enough to flaunt what I do, to tell my neighbors and my friends just what a wonderful experience this has been for me. But it does not make me any less proud of what I do. I can only thank the men for treating me as well as they have, for giving to me as I give to them. No matter what society may think, this for me, will always be about just that…..giving.