Name calling

Whore:

A prostitute.
A person considered sexually promiscuous.
A person considered as having compromised principles for personal gain.
Prostitute:


One who solicits and accepts payment for sex acts.
One who sells one's abilities, talent, or name for an unworthy purpose.
Slut:

A woman considered sexually promiscuous.
A woman prostitute
Courtesan:

A woman prostitute, especially one whose clients are members of a royal court or men of high social standing.


Escort:

One or more persons accompanying another to guide, protect, or show honor.
A man who is the companion of a woman, especially on a social occasion.
A person, often a prostitute, who is hired to spend time with another as a companion.


Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me. It is the reality that when one thinks of a woman of my profession, the above comes to mind. We are demeaned, ridiculed and shrugged off by society. It is wrong, what we do. A true sin, living the most immoral life….or are we?

I would like to know who makes these definitions when writing the almighty book. No, not the Bible that some live faithfully through. I mean the dictionary. What gives one a right to put such a negative attachment to an honorable profession. Ok, maybe a little over the top calling it “honorable” but suffice to say that it is not dirty, degrading or immoral. Sex is natural and time spent together that is paid for seems only proper in my opinion.


“One who sells one's abilities, talent, or name for an unworthy purpose”. This one bewilders me. An unworthy purpose? What is so unworthy? I think I am paid in fair exchange for my services and time. And those fees have given more worth to my life. I have been able to experience things in the past year of escorting that financially I would have never been able to do without this business. Is it so wrong that I ask to be paid for what I do? Is it more honorable to just hand it out to everyone that asks for it and request nothing in return?

“A person considered as having compromised principles for personal gain”. Does it really seem so unrealistic to think that a woman may just enjoy being an escort? I mean, I really never did have to put much thought into doing what I do. My main concern was my safety. I am proud of what I do. I give to men and women what they yearn for in their lives. Adventure, companionship and passion. Don’t we all want that in our lives? I get out of this business what I put into it and that is why I do my best to put my all into it. And I do not compromise any principles to do it.

Escorting is an outlet to capture and release the essence of human sexuality. It is erotica and sensuality, a little on the risqué side perhaps but fun. It is safe in that there are no expectations but a wonderful time to be shared. Is that so wrong?

It is not to say that people don’t get hurt. Not all men and women participate in this business for the same reasons that I do. There is a line, a safety line that each party should clearly have and never cross. I never do, and I never get hurt, emotionally that is. Is there a physical danger to what I do? Absolutely. I cannot deny that and I have seen first hand just how scary it can be but I will save that for another entry. But that is a risk that I am willing to take. I do what I can to protect myself and because of that I have been able to enjoy most of my experiences in this business.

Before you condemn me, see my world through my eyes. Don’t feel pity for me for what I do but be happy that I experience all that I do. Do not pray for me to break free from this lifestyle but pray for yourself that you have a chance to set your sexuality free. And most importantly, don’t feel that because you are paying for my services that you have the right to treat me as you feel just. I respect myself and stand up for my chosen profession.

I kiss men in a way that some have never felt. They are my lover for the time that we are together. We experience together a most amazing connection. I give to them a renewed sense of themselves. They give to me the pleasure of having satisfied and at times satisfied myself. I leave smiling and so do they. I ask them about their day. Some have not been asked that by anyone that really cared in a long time. I offer them companionship and intimacy. Yes, it is paid for but that does not make it any less sincere.

Call me a whore, a prostitute or a slut and you condemn yourself as well. They are names, and while they are unpleasant they do not hurt me as their meanings are only attached to them by ignorance. I know I will never change how society views myself and others like me. But it will never make me any less proud of what I do or more importantly, who I am.