Competition. It sounds so negative as I see it in front of me. The word makes me feel uneasy, defensive and perhaps even a bit irritable. I know some will say that competition is healthy but in this business I just don’t see how it is so.
To me, competition only exists when there are two or more beings vying for the same product. So why do women feel that they are in competition with one another when it comes to the escort industry? I do not believe any of us are holding the master product, the key to every man’s innermost desires. We are unique just as the men that we see.
Just how could I possibly benefit from taking down the other ladies in this business to make me look good? Sure, I have personal opinions of a few that are not very favorable. But they are my personal opinions and I do not express those thoughts to anyone within the industry. If anything, to speak in ill terms of another escort could only portray me as insecure, lacking the confidence and maturity that I feel many may find to be my more attractive attributes.
There are many things that some ladies chose to do in this business that I do not agree with. In saying that I mean that their business practices would not be suitable for the way I choose to run my business. But who am I to say what the right or wrong way of doing things would be? I do things the way I do because they work for me. As I have said many times before, I am who I am. I am honest in saying that. Yes, my personality as “Belle” may be a little more outgoing and adventurous than how I am in my personal surroundings but I am still a good person no matter what persona I am wearing.
How do I benefit from saying that I do not need to work with the other ladies? To say that I am better than any of them, that I am so well liked by the gents that I have no need to befriend the ladies would be a very insulting shot to the industry. I have done so well in this business because of the ladies. I have had fun with them, not only while doing business with them but learning from them and about them while bantering on the boards and of course during our frequent meet and greets. I am not wanting to take their business from them but to help them promote their business. If they succeed, I succeed.
These things are an important part of our business. We do need each other and the sooner the others get to understand this concept the sooner it will become a more adventurous and fun industry to be involved in. I am not concerned if a lady works for an agency or is an Independent. There should not be that “line” there. We are all escorts. We are all equal in what we do. Men will argue that some do things better than others but that is what makes this business so beautiful! What would be the point if we all did/acted and looked the same?
It is amazing to me that some of these ladies chose not to attend events that I may be present at. It has been suggested that perhaps they are intimidated by me and I just can’t accept that to be the case. These women I have never met. We have never exchanged even so much as a glace at one another yet they have formed an opinion about me. How is that possible? Now perhaps their young age has something to do with it. Unfortunately it has to be accepted that many ladies in this business are fairly young and have little life experience. They should not be faulted for their innocence, in youth is beauty. But this is an adult industry and sometimes I get the impression that we are frolicking in the school yard. I can put up with a lot of things but ignorance is something I despise. Do not judge me through someone else’s eyes. Do not assume because someone has told you of me that you do not like what I stand for. Do not assume you know me because you have read a few words I have written. Do not put me down because others enjoy my company. I am here to have fun, not to compare numbers. I am here to be personally satisfied, not degraded. I am here to support, not to defend.
So to all of you gents that have your “favorite” ladies out there please encourage them to mingle. Ask them to join us for our meet and greets. Encourage them to meet us online for a chat. Most importantly, ask them to respect themselves and others in the industry! There is enough judgement to be passed when we leave this earth. Let’s put an end to competing against each other and put a little more focus on working with each other!
1 comment:
Thanks GW, a very insightful view that I can only agree with. I know that this business will likely never change as far as the competition factor. I wish it would, but I know it won't. I think I just feel more hurt than anything that a woman would feel intimidated by without taking the time to get to know me. And you do pose a very good point that I hadn't thought of. I see the big picture being that us ladies are not offering the same product. We are each unique in every sense of the word. But yes, men are perhaps more likely to view the product as one the same. Thanks for your take on the subject!
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