Wednesday, September 13, 2006

Flirtatious Banter

The “flirtatious banter” dilemma I face being an escort is quite complex so I am looking for your thoughts on this one! I want your honesty here so please do not hold back. First let me say that I love to flirt. I love to be part of someone’s fantasy, to be an object of their desire. No, not to be treated as an object but to feel as though I am desired. Flirting keeps this fantasy fun. It is erotic to have a sexual fantasy but even more so when you imagine who that person would be to partake in that fantasy. And to top that off would be to flirt with that person about that fantasy.

To flirt with someone is stimulating for me. When I flirt with a man, it is not so much the intention to follow through as it is the rush of feeling wanted and being teased as well as to do the teasing! It is not to say that these flirtations are empty as I do follow through with the fantasy when I am intrigued or aroused by someone (You know exactly who you are!) but it is still not the intent.

So here is where I am at:

I am very forward about what I like, what I do not like and the things I am willing to try (or not to try) for that matter. In my personal life flirting is not an issue. While I may do it lightheartedly with a coworker I am aware it never has the possibility for potential. It is harmless as there is no intention on my part to carry it through to anything more than simple flirting.

As an escort I am running my own business. It is expected of me to consider everything I say and do when promoting my business or when simply bantering with those that I have met through this business. I am very careful to not disrespect anyone within the industry and there are many things I am concerned about when I banter flirtatiously with the wonderful gents I have met.

First of all I never wish to make a man feel that I expect him to see me. I never question to him or even myself how often they choose to see me or why they see me. That is not my business. My business is to see them when they choose to see me. If that means visits months apart or hours apart, I will not approach any gentleman as to when he will be seeing me next. To me that would be highly unprofessional, perhaps even to go so far as seeming desperate.


I would be humiliated if I ever thought to shame someone into seeing me or to make them feel obligated to me in anyway. This is one large candy store and we all love different flavors. I would never allow myself to be offended by a client of mine (being someone I have seen, not to say that that client is mine) seeing another lady. In fact I encourage it all of the time! I believe that it is perhaps unhealthy for a gent to see a single lady exclusively. Yes, I have had/have gents to see me exclusively for a time and then they move on. This is a good process, a healthy one and is par for the course. That is how this industry works.

So with all of that being said is it possible to be endlessly flirtatious without the party involved feeling as though there is pressure to book an appointment with me? I wonder this often and worry that while I am enjoying playing with the idea of an encounter with someone that they perhaps may feel pressured in some way. Do you feel obligated to see a lady because you have spoken in a chat room? Do you feel the need to see a lady more than once to not have her feel as though your first time with her was unsatisfying? In your experiences as a hobbyist, what are your pet peeves or things that put you off from seeing a lady? And lastly, does an escort flirting with you seem like a desperate cry for an appointment?

I am very curious to hear what you all think of this. I know I have a lot of readers out there so I had better get a lot of comments! Post anonymously if you like, it is not my concern as to who you are but what you think!

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

Belle, you do it right!!!

Playful banter/chat shows comfort in what you are doing and NOT desperation.....
As far as anyone asking one to see me!!! or asking when are you going to see me???
I am fine with that too, but I may follow up; or I may not.

I have at times pressured myself to see a lady......(important distinction as I pressured me.. NO one else did it) as ultimately its my decision.

Desperate no; its actually a compliment when approached in any manner. I think I am smart enough to determine who is real, and who isn't; and even if I don't I've only wasted an hour or two. When you endlessly flirt; it pretty well has to be a regular of the boards. They should know!!!!



Pet Peeves.....

"The faker" - one that pretends to have a good times.. Fake screams and moans about how good I am.... I've been known to laugh.. I am not talking about the ones that tell me how great I am.. well because thats the norm :) (yeah right)..

Disrespect for the other ladies- This one is something we all have been guilty of in some form or other. I have met and chatted with some fine ladies in this hobby. We may not have clicked... we may not be sexually compatible but they still deserver respect. From an personal standpoint, this is real important to me. Good news is it can be overcome.. but it takes a lot of positives to overcome one act of disrespect.

Disrespect for oneself

Anonymous said...

Boggle99 said:Never have I felt pressured to see you. The entire package you present(including the flirtation) is what makes me want to see you. My fear is the exact opposite-that I pressure you to see me! Please do not change your style-I love it when you call me sexy!

Anonymous said...

You ain't supposed to use to words that I aint got a clue what they mean; so I had to steal me on of them Dictionarise things to look them words up.

What have I gots to do to make you do that stuff with me? I offered to let you ride in my truck, pet my dog, and you don't respond exceptin for laughin?

I done searched through the pictures in the dictionary and done figured out that flirtatious banter stuff?
If'n that means you'll clean and cook my roadkill, then I am all for it.


I gots a word of advice though; I met that Boggle feller and if I was you... I would watch him. He was eyein my roadkill like he wanted it.